Treat A Woman Like A Nerd

• 🤔 Treating a woman like a nerd involves indifference rather than contempt.
• 🔄 People naturally want to appease those they perceive as superior.
• 💡 Coolness is a form of indifference that draws others to seek approval.
• 🧠 Focusing only on genuinely interesting aspects of a woman’s conversation is crucial.
• 🚫 Ignoring a woman’s physical attractiveness is key; focus on her personality.
• 🤷‍♂️ Indifference is challenging but essential for success in relationships.
• 💔 Rudeness drives people away, while indifference piques interest.
• 🤷‍♀️ Genuine indifference can attract even extremely attractive women.

The Power of Indifference: Treating Women Like Nerds

Finding Success in Dating and Beyond

In the late 90s, while living in New York City, I had a friend named Chris who had a sister deeply involved in the fashion world. This connection opened doors for us and allowed us to attend fashion shows, where we had the opportunity to meet some incredible people. Marvels. Yes, you heard that right. Marvels. It was an amazing experience, especially for Chris, who was a very good-looking guy. As for me, I may have received second dibs, but I can assure you, they were pretty damn good.

Initially, I couldn’t help but wonder how Chris managed to attract so many women. He was not only attractive but also had a way with words. During one of our conversations while watching a basketball game (which we weren’t even fans of), Chris shared his secret with me. He said, “You know, all you have to do is treat a girl like a nerd.” At first, I was puzzled by his statement, but upon reflection, I realized that when I interacted with guys I considered nerdy or uninteresting, I treated them with a certain level of condescension and indifference. Surprisingly, this behavior caused them to try harder to earn my approval.

It’s a well-known fact that individuals naturally seek validation and approval from those they perceive to have higher social status. This applies to both men and women. If someone acts superior or indifferent, it triggers a response in others to please and gain their favor. We’ve all experienced this phenomenon, especially during our high school years. Remember when a sophomore would try to befriend you, a senior, in hopes of fitting in? The same principle applies when it comes to attracting women, particularly attractive ones.

However, it’s essential to note that treating women poorly is not the answer. Instead, it’s about cultivating a sense of indifference towards them. Indifference, not rudeness, sparks their interest. When you genuinely don’t care if someone is present or absent, they instinctively want to change your mind. This concept applies to all areas of life, not just dating.

Applying the Lesson: The Power of Ignoring Looks

Now, let’s dive into the practical application of Chris’s insight. When talking to a woman, focus on her words and thoughts, not just her physical appearance. Ignore how attractive she is, which requires significant mental discipline. This may seem counterintuitive, but it’s the key to piquing her interest and making her work for your approval. When you only pay attention to what she says that genuinely interests you and dismiss anything else, she will sense your indifference and strive to capture your attention.

I must admit that I initially had a few false starts. At first, I thought being rude was the way to go, but that was a mistake. Instead, the strategy is to concentrate on the aspects that genuinely interest you when she speaks. Ignore her looks, as difficult as it may be, and focus on what she says that captures your attention. This approach allows you to establish a connection based on mutual interests, just like when conversing with someone you consider a nerd.

Imagine a scenario where a nerdy guy starts talking to you about a topic you find uninteresting, like Dungeons and Dragons. In response, you naturally tune him out and think about something else. Surprisingly, he adjusts the conversation to a topic that appeals to you, such as sports or motorcycles. The same principle applies when interacting with women. By paying attention only to what genuinely interests you, you create an environment where attractive women strive to gain your approval.

Overcoming Initial Challenges

It’s important to acknowledge that initial encounters with extremely attractive women, such as models, can be overwhelming. Their physical beauty has a way of short-circuiting our brains. However, once you overcome this initial hurdle and train yourself to ignore their looks, focusing on them as individuals, success awaits. This transformation occurred for me after three months of experimentation, and it was nothing short of shocking.

It’s worth noting that indifference can be a powerful tool in various aspects of life, not just in dating. When you genuinely don’t care about the outcome, things often work out in your favor. This concept forms the foundation of Zen Buddhism, as explored in the book “Zen and the Art of Archery” by Eugene Herrigel. In this book, Herrigel, a German philosophy professor who taught in Japan, delves into the power of indifference and its transformative effects.

Conclusion

By treating women like nerds, not rudely but with a baseline level of respect, you can tap into the power of indifference and experience incredible results. Focus on their thoughts and ideas, pay attention when they say something genuinely interesting, and look away when they say something uninteresting. Ignore their looks and create an environment where they feel the need to earn your approval.

Indifference is a valuable skill that extends beyond dating. By mastering the art of indifference, you can navigate various aspects of life with confidence and success. Remember, indifference is not about being rude, but rather about genuinely not caring about the outcome. Embrace this mindset, and you’ll find that people, including attractive women, will naturally gravitate towards you.

If you’re interested in delving deeper into these concepts and have questions or insights to share, I host a call-in show on my Patreon every Sunday. Feel free to check it out; the link is in the description below. Thank you for taking the time to read this blog, and I’ll catch you next time!