Let’s You And Him Fight

Key Takeaways

• 🥊 Women may instigate confrontations between men to feel valued and increase their own sense of worth.
• 💔 Some women derive ego boosts from having multiple men compete for their attention, similar to a drug addiction.
• 🤥 Women might fabricate stories about other men to provoke competition and enhance their own desirability.
• 🎭 Recognize the manipulation and ego inflation tactics used by some women to incite competition between men.
• 🚫 Avoid falling into the trap of engaging in confrontations with other men over a woman’s attention; disengagement is key to maintaining dignity and self-respect.

The Trap of Let’s You and Him Fight

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are involved in a confrontation with another guy while you are with a girl? Whether it’s your girlfriend, a potential girlfriend, or just a random acquaintance, the girl’s reaction can be quite surprising. Instead of diffusing the situation, she might encourage the fight, saying “let’s you and him fight.” This scenario is not uncommon and has been a recurring theme throughout history. In fact, the tale of Helen of Troy in the epic poem, The Iliad, revolves around this very concept. But why do women love this kind of attention? Let’s explore the psychology behind it.

Women and the Attention Tug of War

Women love to be in the middle of a tug of war between two guys because it increases their value. Helen of Troy, the mythical figure who ignited the Trojan War, is often seen as the epitome of this behavior. It’s worth noting that we do not know whether Helen of Troy was actually as attractive as she’s depicted, but the important point is that two powerful men were willing to go to war over her. This dynamic of women playing two guys off each other has persisted throughout history and continues to be prevalent today.

The Ego Boost

At a young age, some girls discover the power they hold when two guys fight over them. It boosts their ego and makes them feel special. This feeling becomes addictive, and they actively seek opportunities to recreate it. These girls often mention the other guy to the one they prefer, whispering sweet nothings and driving them crazy with competition. Men, being naturally competitive, fall into the trap and start doing everything they can to please the girl and prove themselves as the superior choice. Even as adults, the same pattern can be observed, albeit with less physical violence. When a girl mentions another guy, she is testing the man’s interest and willingness to compete for her.

The Illusion of Competition

Sometimes, the other guy the girl mentions doesn’t even exist. She might claim to have a male friend who poses a threat, but it’s merely a manipulation tactic. This isn’t a common occurrence, but it is essential to recognize that some women toy with emotions and use these tactics to make men put in more effort. It’s crucial not to take the bait.

Don’t Fall for the Trap

The key to navigating this situation is to disengage. The more you fall into the trap and compete for her attention, the more she wins, and you lose. The type of guy these girls ultimately settle for is the one who doesn’t care, the one who remains indifferent and doesn’t jump through hoops for her. By showing that you have other options and not chasing after her, you become more desirable in her eyes. Playing it cool and not taking the bait is the winning move.

Blowing Her Off

If a girl claims to have a friend who poses a threat, the best approach is to ignore it. The more you strive to compete for her attention, the more power she gains over you. Instead, focus on your own priorities and do not let her game distract you. By putting her on the back burner and showing that you have other options, she will naturally start chasing after your attention. This strategy works because it triggers her competitiveness and makes her see you as a valuable prize.

Understanding the Game

If you ask any woman about a situation where a girl has two guys fighting over her, they will confirm that the girl typically chooses the one who doesn’t fight for her. These girls have internalized the notion that playing guys off each other is the norm in the man-woman dynamic. By blowing her off and not falling for her tactics, you can turn the tables and make her chase you instead.

Avoiding Regret

Many smart guys, including myself in the past, have fallen into this trap. It takes time and self-awareness to recognize the game being played and disengage effectively. If you fall for the trap, you’ll look back with regret and realize how foolish it was to participate. Learn from these experiences and remember that the winning move is not to play.

Conclusion

Understanding the dynamics of the “let’s you and him fight” trap can save you from unnecessary heartache and frustration. Recognize the signs, disengage, and focus on your own value. By not falling for the manipulation, you become the one in control, and she will chase after your attention. Don’t let your ego cloud your judgment, and remember that you deserve someone who values you for who you are, not because of a competition.