Advice for Women “The Eternal Boyfriend”

Key insights

• 👩‍💼 Women need to wake up and understand what’s going on in relationships.
• 💍 The expectation of marriage and children can lead women to stay in long-term relationships with no commitment from their partners.
• 🤔 An eternal boyfriend may just want a girlfriend for regular sex and companionship, without any intention of marriage or having kids.
• 💭 The stereotype of a guy being with a girl for years and then getting married quickly after the relationship ends is based on the reality of many relationships.
• 🤦‍♀️ Women are fools because they are and they’ll put up with a guy like that for ages.
• 🤔 The guy will say anything to keep her happy, except “yes, I do” and “I am so happy that you’re pregnant.”
• ⏳ “The most valuable thing most limited thing that you have is time because once you hit 35 insofar as babies is concerned. It is over.”
• 💍 If after nine months the guy doesn’t want to put a ring on you or stick a baby into you, move on because it’s not going to happen.

Why You Shouldn’t Settle for an Eternal Boyfriend

The Story of Natasha

Recently, I had a conversation with a young woman named Natasha. She’s 29 years old, incredibly attractive, and intelligent. Natasha shared with me her frustration about being in a six-year relationship with her boyfriend without any signs of progress. No ring, no baby. This reminded me of another story I witnessed personally. My assistant, back in 2005, was in a similar situation. She had been with her boyfriend for 10 years, starting from their high school days. She was 26 years old at the time, hoping for a future together, but he had no intentions of marriage or children. Eventually, they broke up, and within 18 months, he was married to someone else who was pregnant. Sadly, this kind of story happens all too often.

The Eternal Boyfriend

Women, this is important for you to understand. When you have an eternal boyfriend, someone you’ve been with for years without any progress, it’s time to wake up and smell the reality. This doesn’t apply to all men, but there are those who are content with having a girlfriend for companionship and regular sex, but have no intention of marrying or having children. They view you as a temporary partner, not someone they see a future with. They may enjoy your company and the benefits of the relationship, but they are constantly looking for someone better.

The Male Mindset

Men make up their minds about a woman within the first few months of dating. They know whether they see a potential long-term partner or someone to start a family with. If you’ve been in a relationship for more than six months to a year without any talk of marriage or children, it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t see you as a long-term partner. He may continue the relationship because he’s getting sex and companionship, but deep down, he’s always on the lookout for someone better. This is why you often hear stories of men leaving their long-term girlfriends and marrying someone else within a short period of time. It’s a stereotype because it happens so frequently.

Don’t Waste Your Time

Ladies, it’s time to make up your mind. If you’re with an eternal boyfriend who shows no signs of commitment, it’s unlikely that he ever will. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can change his mind. The only time he might consider marrying you is if he reaches a certain age and settles for the best he can get. Your time is precious, especially when it comes to having children. Once you hit 35, the chances of natural conception decrease significantly. Don’t waste your valuable time on someone who doesn’t share your goals and desires.

Move On and Find Happiness

If you’ve been with someone for nine months or more without any progression towards marriage or starting a family, it’s time to move on. Don’t settle for an eternal boyfriend who doesn’t want the same things as you. Trust me, I’ve seen it happen countless times. The odds are against you when it comes to natural conception after the age of 35. Don’t ignore the warning signs and find yourself in a situation where you regret not taking action earlier.

Remember, you deserve someone who is excited about building a future together, someone who wants to share the joys of marriage and parenthood with you. Don’t settle for anything less.